Actions Speak Loudest of All

I’ve been holding off on writing about my recent crush, partly because things were in a holding pattern of sorts but mostly because I was hoping things would take a turn for the better. I’m convinced now that they will not.

The pattern basically goes like this:

• (him) Lame text message or suggestive pseudo date invite
  
• (me) Positive response that requests action (like a phone call) or actual plan
• (him) Lame text message response indicating humor at above suggestion
• (me) Strong response indicating that I’m (a) not kidding or (b) pretty sure that he’s simply not interested
• (him) Solid response back that he is sorry and interested and will be planning a date

Then there is a three day break in communications, in which I hope to hear from him but do not. After two and a half rounds it has become clear that whatever these messages from him say, they won’t be leading to anything involving an in-person meeting.

I’m not sure what his aim is in continuing to reach out - Does he believe the things he’s saying? Is he just trying to keep me hanging on while he tries out other ladies? - but it doesn’t matter. His actions speak louder than any text message or phone call ever could.

As for me, I’m pretty bummed about this latest disappointment, I so rarely meet someone I feel such an immediate connection with. I so rarely really put myself out there and believe someone I’ve just met. But I did believe him and now I feel like a fool.

He’s not direct, he’s not forward, and he’s definitely not interested in dating me. Oh and he shouldn’t start up a dating consulting service with his friend like he mentioned on our date. Unless he’s Exhibit A.