Boy Likes Girl. Girl Feels Blah About Boy.

Friday, October 23, 2009
All right, so after a great first date in which I felt chemistry and really enjoyed spending time with Marathon Guy I had a second date in which I felt way less chemistry and the conversation sort of stalled.

I was impressed with the sushi, though. They had a lot of fancy special rolls and the price was right on. Bonus restaurant review: Kohan, 4 stars.

Enter one of my classic dating scenarios: BOY LIKES GIRL. GIRL FEELS BLAH ABOUT BOY. I run into this a lot... when I finally meet someone who is decidedly interested in me and also capable of pursuing an actual relationship, I typically balk and start pursuing other interests.

We haven’t gotten to the bottom of this particular cooling off, but after a few days of hashing it out with some gal pals and my mom here is where things stand.

Theory #1: I’m losing interest in Marathon Guy because he’s not a challenge. I know he likes me, and I only like people I have to work to win over. My mom says I may have gotten this from her - that she used to find the cutest boy at parties and win him over - then she’d be done with him. I don’t think I do that, but it’s good to know it’s in my genes.

I do like a challenge, in general, but I also think relationships should be straightforward and don’t need to have games. I don’t think I’m trying to get the un-gettable, but there is less excitement if you already know someone is going to call you every day after only knowing them a week.

Theory #2: I’m not as interested in Marathon Guy because of the reappearance of a certain other guy I used to date and still like and wish would get his act together so we could date.

This one is hard to delve into since I haven’t posted anything about that guy on the blog but basically he’s a guy I really liked and think has real potential. I also think he’s a lost cause and that I probably should cut the cord. I’m not sure how to respond to this theory. I do still like that other guy. I don’t think it will go anywhere, though.

Conclusion: There are any number of reasons why our 2nd date was just okay instead of amazing, but there’s nothing wrong with that. Some connections are instant and others develop over time. It's too soon to say whether I'll beat the blahs, but like I said, I'm always up for a challenge.

9 comments:

Nicole said...

I think theory 2 sounds very probable. Theory 1 doesn't strike me as you. I did notice that you mentioned that certain other guy last time we got together.

Nicole said...

But the question now is.... are there plans on the horizon with Marathon Guy? Are there any plans for discussing feelings and such with Other Guy? It just occurred to me, too, that Other Guy is about the only guy you don't assign a nickname to. I know you call him by his last name a lot, but that is not a nickname. Can some psychologist type follower of your blog analyze that please?

Heather K said...
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jo said...

it sucks when it seems like you've found a great guy who's into you and you're just not that into him. both theories do seem probable. or maybe it could just simply be that marathon guy isn't the right one for you. but if he's as great as he seems then i'd consider going out with him more. you never know with this chemistry thing, it could ignite a lil later...

plentymorefishoutofwater said...

Girl who doesn't like games but plays them relentlessly SHOCK! :-)
Ha, great blogging though. Good luck with your quest for love...hope it's more successful than mine:
plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/

Dater at Large said...
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Dater at Large said...

PMFOOW: That's not fair! I'm not playing any games with that guy, just trying to figure out whether I like him or not.

Dater at Large said...

N - I did touch base with Marathon Guy last night. No real plans on the horizon but I'm sure there will be some soon. Also, that other guy isn't who you're thinking it is. I will get a post out this weekend to explain.

Nicole said...

Ooh, now I can't think who it is! Excited for the post!