Ants in my Pants

Thursday, December 16, 2010
Whenever I clear my dance card I like to wipe out any and all reminders of the guy from my email, phone, etc. I purge; it’s the best way to take control and create a clean slate.

After the exhilaration of all that deleting has worn off, though, I get a little antsy about what’s next for my dating scene. And as busy as the holidays are I find myself with some extra time on my hands and no one to spend it with. If I could keep a boyfriend around just for holiday time, I totally would.

Oh sure, I’m chatting with a few guys online and may have some dates lined up soon, but sometimes I just want to skip past all that introductory crap and go right to having someone to go out to dinner with. Like tonight.

It's not that I don’t like the getting to know you stage, especially the butterflies that go with all that hopefulness and promise early dates can have, but I think I just get tired of the formality of it all. Well, I like the formality of actually being invited to do something, just not always the planning in advance part.

I want dating to be spontaneous! And I want to waste less time! And I really, really want to go out for dinner with someone new!

As much as I think a CL post would be ideal for locating a guy with a similar sense of throwing caution to the wind (after all, dinner with someone you've barely chatted with could easily spell disaster), I must admit I'm a bit gun shy to put something out there on the off chance that Summer Boy is still lurking around. I'm not sure if he reads women's posts or just writes his own, but the thought of him reading one of mine makes me squirm.

I can’t sit still, though, so maybe I could try being more forward on OK Cupid. Find a nice gentleman who included sushi in his profile and see if he'd be up for a meet and greet. Take him somewhere with mistletoe over the door.

Which reminds me, I haven't gotten my wish list out to Santa. He better come through this year, I've been very, very good.


Lifebeginsat30ty said...

So what do you normally do for a first date then? Most of my first one's have been for drinks that turn into dinner. Or do you stick to the strict drinks/coffee first date?

Anonymous said...

I'd like a holiday boyfriend too...*sigh*

Have you considered something other than CL?

Dater at Large said...

Life: I do a bunch of things for first dates, but usually drinks. I try to avoid a first date where the primary activity is talking and the time frame is more than an hour or so. I like an exit :-)

ThisBrokenHeart: I've been on a number of online dating sites, CL has been the most random and entertaining for me. I very, very rarely do anything on CL anymore beside read other's posts.

Anonymous said...

I like your blog!! I tried to write Santa a letter as well, and it went very much is to 2011!
I am so linking you so I can check back on your progress!!

Dater at Large said...

Esme, thanks, and welcome! I am feeling very positive about this next year...