Crushed: Bus Guy has a Girlfriend

Wednesday, September 23, 2009
The most important question you should be asking is how do I know this? Easy, I asked Bus Guy out. That’s right, terrifying though it may seem, just 36 hours after I introduced myself to my crush I went a step further and actually asked him whether he wanted to grab drinks.

Now you should be asking, how did that happen? Well at the suggestion of two different guy pals I was planning to lay it all on the line and ask Bus Guy out the next time I ran into him at the bus stop. And then he was on my bus home, which he almost never is. After a quick touch up on my make-up and pep talk from a friend I went and sat across from him on the bus to strike up conversation. Public transportation banter completed, one stop before his (which is one stop before mine), I just asked him out. He said he had a girlfriend, so that probably wouldn’t be a good idea, but that it was really nice of me to ask. I said, don’t even worry about it, and then he got off the bus.

Finally you ask, how are you feeling now that your crush is no more? Surprisingly, I feel absolutely fine. I don’t feel rejected, I’m really proud of myself for taking the initiative and most importantly I’m excited that I can stop going to the bus stop at such an annoying time.

Like E. said, "Right now it’s all in your head, not in your heart". She’s right, I don’t even know him, and I shouldn’t waste any more time stressing about running into him and trying to strike up conversations.

Even now, a full day after the fact, the only thing that bums me out about it is that I don’t have a crush anymore. Don’t worry, I will soon enough.


You Make My Date said...

I need to take a page out of your book. My friends and I saw a group of super cute guys last night at the bar, who kept checking us out...and when my two girl friends suggested we go over there, I chickened out completely.

As in, ran in the other direction wailing like a baby. It was not my finest moment! So I'm definitely impressed with you taking the initiative.

Dater at Large said...

I'm only brave on occasion, but I will say that when I have been, even when I get turned down, I usually don't feel embarrassed or bad at all - the dude turning me down usually feels the worst - I just feel empowered. Don't chicken out next time!